Thursday, April 23, 2009

her birthday

Know that I may not be a great sister,
But I know you are one.
Know that I don't give you much time,
But I know you always have for me.

Happy 22nd and you can open up Zhang's toy. Let me play too.
Happy birthday, MissFatty

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Apology

I know I won't be angry with them for long, nor will they be angry with me for long time too, but I still believe that they deserve the same very sincere apology which we would usually say to outsiders and hardly to the loved ones.

I am glad I made the move, because I started the argument anyways >.< And very happy to receive their replies. It warmed my heart instantly for both times. (And I teared on the train. How embarrasing.)

Not only apology, a short and sweet thank-you mustn't be neglected. Not only will it show your appreciation for the person, it will also be a reminder for you that the person has helped you in any ways.

I am still learning not to take my family for granted, and treat them with all the respect that they deserve.

After all, I won't be who I am without them.

Thursday, April 09, 2009

Departures

The propriety and respect given to the dead by the makeup artist are extremely alarming and touching. Having the waterfall eyes, I was sobbing whenever the main and his boss ‘do their job’. Yet, the shocking thing learnt from this movie is how this occupation is actually despised by the Japanese locals. I have always felt that such jobs are noble and courageous. After all, how many would dare to wash the bodies and do a beautiful makeup of a dead, most of the time strangers to you, with utmost respect and precision. Then again, maybe our local way might differ. Japanese is always very well-known for their propriety and traditional values.

In Buddhism, death should leave neither sadness nor regrets because life itself is a painful and vicious cycle for humans to learn and make mistakes. In Christianity, death will lead to a second phase of life – passing of judgment – to Heaven or Hell. In Islam, life and death are all planned by Allah therefore there is nothing to fear and be sad. I know when I die, I wouldn’t want to see my loved ones cry. Because I would have been thankful for all that they’ve given me. But thinking if my loved ones leave me first, I would cry and regret over the things I haven’t done to make their lives more worthwhile.

One told me that if I can’t let go of death, I have not learnt the true meaning of life. To me, living is a passing phase for all beings. For us to learn all emotions, to learn all life anecdotes, to meet people destined to meet – to come empty and leave empty. Whatever we’ve learnt, we’ve seen, we’ve met, and whomever we’ve loved, we’ve cared, we’ve hated, will all be for this life alone. So, why not leave behind a legacy? So that people we’ve loved, cared or hated will be at our funerals, thanking us for creating those shared moments and smile as they send us the ‘last journey’. In that case, we’ll live more than a lifetime. Well, this saying sounds very self-centered.

But when I celebrate my birthdays, I will always think, will these people who celebrate with me appear at my funeral too and remember for what I have done in my life? “All gatherings can be excused except funerals. Because that will be the final last time you get to see the person.”-QSN ZZ.

Drifting off too a bit too much from the show. Anyhow, it’s a very meaningful story to get one thinking about life. The main lead is really cute. His expressions were classic when he realized that “departures” are talking about the dead rather than tour agency’s version.

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